Actually, it's not so much that the voices in my head are idiots...they're just not dreamers. Too pragmatic, priggish even. No room for that romantic fantasy of finding someone who truely commits to the relationship AND the person as inseparable. Even many of my friends here on Boomer are skeptical that such can exist. But I don't dream of a smothering, joined at the hip kinda thing...I am a Saggatarius, after all! (Spoiler alert!!: I don't buy into astrology, though the description is so close, I get chills...sometimes...) Seems that two folks who are so smitten with each other...at least for a starting period...would be capable (and desirous) of forging a life to fit that shared image of the future, while allowing for the fact that growth does occur independently for each. I don't believe it's growing "apart" so much as a failure to celebrate and embrace each other's growth for what that growth brings into the storehouse of enriched experience. It is only growing "apart" if one keeps the growth, the nuance, the enriched "difference" (viva le differance!) to themselves (kinda selfish, anyway, huh?).
If relationships are doomed to short lived time-frames, they might as well come with "expires on" dates, so all know...the first party to open the "fridge" door and discover something that doesn't suit them, can toss the offending other, and no one is surprised.
I've stopped listening to those voices, they are idiots! Me? For my part, I choose to dream...that I might one day live that dream. I think things happen when you are engaged with life, out there living it, head up, aware, alert, positive...seeking the adventure, and renewal each new day brings. I hope I have the humor to match the worst life can throw, and the love for celebration of the best....and friends to share this roller coaster of thrills.
Yes, I've stopped listening to those voices...they led me to places I didn't want to go. If I were busy doing their bidding, I wasn't busy getting on with life's adventures.
Ya know, I'm not sure why this came out, but feel better already...think I'll get on with my day! All the best, Travis
