I have had several people tell me lately that they are afraid to post things that could be somewhat controversial as of fear their account would be deleted. Rather than answering one by one I thought it best for me to state my opinion to all that would be interested.
Since becoming a member of myboomerplace I have had the occasion arise where I did in fact disagree with someone. This member had posted something that went against every fiber of my being and therefore I said something. I was not “booted” nor did I have the fear I would be. As of the past several months a few members where in fact “booted” or their accounts blocked due to NOT their disagreements, but rather, HOW they posted their disagreement. Some were “booted” that I did not agree with Tom on their removal and most of them are back.
Growing up I was always told that “knee jerk” reactions served only to bring about further “knee jerk” reactions and therefore make “jerks” out of everyone involved. Our America is founded on freedom of speech and being the so called “melting pot” of many cultures, beliefs, concerns, etc., there most assuredly will be disagreements. We have members from not only the US but Canada, the UK, Australia, etc., and that within itself will bring about differences of opinion. The upcoming US Presidential Election is one of the most controversial and “heated” subjects there are today. Again, I have found, it’s the manner of our disagreement rather than the subject.
Human nature is true to itself and when someone attacks you or one of your family members, your intelligence, your faith, etc., it can become very personal and we feel the need to defend ourselves. The balance for me is to find the way to express where I am coming from but also to allow that person to feel, think, believe, the way that they do, in other words, agree to disagree. My job is not to convert them but to allow them to be a vital human being right along side of me. We all have family members, best friends, spouses, that we do not agree with in all matters and some times we choose to speak up and sometimes we do not however; whatever the decision is it is best served for the good of all to express it with kindness and love. My faith teaches me that the main reason I am here is to love with all of my heart just as Christ first loved me. I pray that I can do this in all walks of my life in agreement or disagreement with anyone.
My point for writing this is stated above but to also encourage all to take part in whatever comes our way here on this site. We are a social community and the only way a community can survive is to work together to make it the best community possible. I hope you will join in wherever you feel drawn and remember that honey really does draw more to you than vinegar.
I look forward to many “debates” and fun in discussions.
Always,
Debbie
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