For every moment you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness. - Anon.
The Parable of the Empty Boat.
A monk decides to meditate alone, away from his monastery. He takes his boat out to the middle of the lake, moors it there, closes his eyes, and begins his meditation. After a few hours of undisturbed silence, he suddenly feels the bump of another boat colliding with his own. With his eyes still closed, he senses anger bubbling up. By the time he opens his eyes, he is ready to scream at the boatman who dared disturb his meditation. But when looks, he sees that the boat is empty! It had probably got untethered and floated to the middle of the lake. At that moment, the monk achieves Self-Realization, and understands that the anger he so righteously feels, is within him. It merely needs the bump of an external object to provoke it out of him. From then on, whenever he comes across someone who irritates him or provokes him to anger, he reminds himself, “This person is merely an empty boat. It's not what's making me angry - the anger is already within me. If I didn't have anger, it wouldn't come out". And then chooses how to respond instead. Not reacting angrily doesn't mean you don't care about something, sometimes it means you care enough about yourself to walk away. This isn't to say you should never get angry - anger is a part of the human experience and tells you what's important to you. What I'm saying is, use your anger in positive ways. Channel it in ways that you can both, express it safely and let it fuel your power and determination to create a life and experiences that move you forward. And remember what a wise person once said - anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. I think most of us have to work on this...
“We are each of us angels with only one wing and we can only fly by embracing each other.” –
Luciano de Crescenzo
Every day, in the real world around us , real ~ life angels are doing the things they do...and bringing more smiles to the world around them...Real ~ life angels build bridges instead of walls.
They don't play hide ~ and ~ seek with the truth , they do whatever they can to help you. Real ~ life angels understand the difficulties and always give the benefit of the doubt...They don't hold other up to the standards they can't live by themselves.
Real ~ life angels are what "inner beauty" is all about...Real ~ life angels don't hold things against you; the only things they hold is you. They take their hand in yours when you could use a little reassurance. They walk beside you when you could do with a little guidance and direction in your life. And they support you in your attempts to do what is right...Real ~ ~ life angels multiply your smiles and add to your integrity. They make you feel like, "Hey, I really am somebody who matters."
Then they quietly prove to you how beautiful and true that feeling really is. If you come across an angel like this, you are one of the luckiest people of all. If someone in your life is wonderfully like a angel to you, it's important to let them know. It's the nicest compliment you could ever give. In all the days of your life and in all the years you live. Sending Angels Blessings and Love
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