“My husband is from Phoenix, Arizona, where people proudly describe 110 degrees as "a dry heat." To which I reply, “So is fire.”

I discovered this two years ago when we flew to Phoenix for a week’s vacation.  We departed the airport on July 4th. I look back now and keep asking myself: what on earth was I thinking when I booked this trip?

The moment our plane landed, it was 116 degrees.

Every summer, he reminds me of this fact as though it should somehow make me feel better.

"It's different out West," he'll say.

Of course it's different. Out West, the air doesn't wrap itself around your body like a damp wool blanket the moment you step outside. In North Carolina, humidity isn't weather, it's a lifestyle.

My husband greets summer like a long-lost friend. I greet it like an uninvited relative who's arrived with three suitcases and no departure date.

He sees sunshine.

I see sweat.

He sees longer days.

I see higher electric bills.

He sees an opportunity to be outdoors.

I see mosquitoes filing flight plans.

The first truly hot day of the year always catches me by surprise. Not because I didn't know it was coming, but because I somehow convince myself every spring that perhaps this year will be different.

It never is.

By June, stepping outside feels like opening the dishwasher mid-cycle and climbing in.

The humidity grabs hold of your hair, your clothes, and whatever dignity you had left. You can spend thirty minutes getting ready only to look like you've run a marathon by the time you reach the mailbox.

Meanwhile, my husband is standing there smiling.

"Beautiful day," he says.

Easy for him to say. He grew up where sweat evaporates.

Around here, sweat applies for residency.

Still, summer isn't all bad. There are tomatoes fresh from the garden, lightning bugs dancing at dusk, vacations, porch swings, and the sound of children enjoying the freedom of long days and late sunsets.

Those moments almost make me forget the heat.

Almost.

But when August arrives and the weather forecast begins with the words "hot and humid," you'll find me staring at pictures of pumpkins, sweaters, and counting the days until autumn.

My husband can keep his summer.

I'll take October.

After all, if Phoenix taught him to love heat, North Carolina taught me that there are some things in life you're meant to survive rather than enjoy.

And as every Southerner knows, fall isn't just a season.

It's a reward for making it through summer.

Our next flight to Phoenix will definitely be in December.

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As our vacation approaches in the coming weeks, where we'll be boarding a train for a day excursion, it occurred to me that life is much like a railroad journey.

Trains have destinations. They follow established tracks, make scheduled stops, and carry passengers from one place to another. Life often works the same way. We travel through seasons, encounter people who join us for part of the ride, and occasionally find ourselves waiting at stations we never expected to visit.

But one thought kept returning to me: not every train is ours to board.

Throughout life, opportunities arrive like trains pulling into a station. Some appear exciting. Some seem practical. Others arrive with great fanfare and the encouragement of those around us. Yet wisdom teaches us that just because a train stops in front of us doesn't mean it is headed where we need to go.

When we're young, we often feel compelled to chase every possibility. We fear missing out. We worry that another opportunity may never come. With age comes a different perspective. We begin to understand that every choice carries us somewhere, and not every destination is worth the trip.

I've come to appreciate the value of standing on the platform and simply watching some trains pass by.

The wrong relationship. The wrong investment. The wrong commitment. The wrong path. At the time, each may have looked inviting, but looking back, we're grateful we didn't climb aboard. What seemed like a missed opportunity was often a blessing in disguise.

Life isn't measured by how many trains we board. It's measured by whether we're traveling in the direction that aligns with our values, our purpose, and God's plan for our lives.

The right train doesn't require us to abandon our principles or ignore our instincts. It arrives in its proper time, and when it does, we can step aboard with confidence.

So as I anticipate our upcoming train ride, I find myself reflecting on life's journey. Trains will come and trains will go. Opportunities will appear and disappear. Not every one deserves our ticket.

After all, not every track carries us to our destination.

Sometimes the wisest thing we can do is stand still, trust the journey, and let the train pass by.

"Looking back, I've discovered that some of life's greatest blessings arrived disguised as trains I never boarded."

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Some say cardinals appear when Heaven feels close.

And this afternoon, outside my kitchen window, one came quietly to remind me I was not alone in my sorrow.

Before I even opened my eyes this morning, I already sensed one was nearby. A gentle knowing settled deep within my spirit. Then there it was — a beautiful red cardinal resting outside my kitchen window, bright against the cloudiness of the day.

But today was not an ordinary day.

Yesterday, a dear, sweet, and precious friend — once my neighbor, and forever a part of my heart — crossed over Heaven’s gate. The kind of friend whose presence became woven into the fabric of life itself. The kind you never quite prepare yourself to lose.

And somehow, in the middle of grief, God sent a small messenger with crimson wings.

Not to erase the ache.
Not to silence the tears.
But to remind my broken heart that love does not end here.

I stood there quietly watching that cardinal, and for a moment, Heaven did not feel so far away.

Maybe the cardinal was simply a bird.
Or maybe it was mercy wrapped in feathers.
A whisper from eternity saying:

“She made it home.”

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18

Marie- April 30, 1930-May 23, 2026

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Some of the greatest wisdom we ever receive doesn’t come from books, podcasts, or motivational speakers. It comes from a mother standing at the kitchen sink, folding laundry, or speaking softly after life has humbled us. At the time, her words can sound ordinary, sometimes repetitive, sometimes even annoying. Yet years later, they return with startling clarity.

I began to remember the many words my Mother spoke from yesteryear. A pastor’s recent Mother’s Day message spoke of this loud and clear. He conveyed the strength and many abilities all Mothers carry, especially when they’re raising children. Our father passed away when my twin sister and I were just a couple of months away from turning 16.  She faced the days ahead with absolute grace and endurance.

“Money doesn’t grow on trees.”

“Don’t count your chickens before they hatch.”

“Save something for a rainy day.”

“Close the door… you’re letting all the air out.”

“You reap what you sow.”

As children, we hear these phrases as background noise. As adults, we realize they were survival guides.

Mothers often teach life in plain language. They don’t always wrap lessons in poetry or philosophy. Instead, they hand us truth in grocery store aisles, waiting rooms, and late-night conversations around tired eyes and unpaid bills. Somehow, they know life will eventually explain what they mean.

Mama knew heartbreak would come long before we did.

She knew not everyone would clap when we succeeded. She knew apologies don’t always arrive. She knew peace is worth more than proving a point. She knew character matters when nobody is watching. She knew that hard seasons reveal who people really are.

And perhaps most importantly, she knew resilience isn’t loud.

It’s getting up the next morning anyway.

There comes a moment in adulthood when you catch yourself repeating your mother’s words almost involuntarily. Maybe to your own children. Maybe to a friend. Maybe quietly to yourself while facing a difficult season. In that moment, you realize wisdom has a way of traveling through generations like an heirloom passed hand to hand.

Some lessons only make sense after disappointment.

After grief.

After betrayal.

After becoming the age your mother once was and suddenly understanding the weight she carried while still making dinner, paying bills, comforting others, and somehow finding the strength to keep going.

The older we get, the more we realize Mama wasn’t trying to control our lives. She was trying to prepare us for them. And maybe that’s one of life’s greatest hidden truths: the advice we resist the most often becomes the wisdom we lean on later.

Mama knew that too.

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I’ve always read the obituaries.

Not just the ones close to home, but from other towns, other states…. places I’ve never been, filled with people I’ve never met. There’s something about those small columns that pulls me in. Names, dates, a handful of sentences trying to capture an entire lifetime.

We live in the present, busy with our routines, our worries, our plans. But every name in those obituaries once lived in that same present too. They had mornings to wake up to, decisions to make, people to love, or sometimes, people they never got the chance to know.

Over the years, the names have become more familiar. Friends. Former coworkers. People who once stood in the same rooms, shared conversations, laughed over ordinary moments. And suddenly, their lives are reduced to paragraphs.

Some of those paragraphs speak of joy: full lives, surrounded by family, rich in memories. Others feel quieter, more reserved, leaving you to wonder what chapters were never written… or never shared.

And then there are the ones that linger.

The ones that make you sit a little longer and think.

Five years ago, I wrote an obituary for my youngest brother.

A brother I never met.

Five siblings, scattered by the brokenness of our parents. Their choices created a ripple effect that carried us into separate lives, separate stories. He grew up in Montana. I grew up in North Carolina. And somewhere in between, there was a lifetime that never intersected.

Writing his obituary felt like trying to describe a book I had never read: only glimpsed from the outside.

I found myself thinking about everything that could have been. The conversations we never had. The laughter we never shared. The simple, ordinary moments that so often become the most meaningful.

And yet, even without those memories, his life mattered.

That’s what the obituaries remind me of, day after day. Every life, no matter how quiet, how complicated, how distant… leaves behind something. A presence. A ripple. A story, even if it’s only partially told.

We don’t always get the endings we expect. We don’t always get the connections we hope for. But we are all part of this journey, walking our own paths, intersecting when we can… and sometimes missing each other entirely.

Still, every life counts.

Every story matters.

Even the ones that never fully unfold.

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There are some companions who walk into our lives and quietly change everything. Our sweet Dixie was one of those souls. For nearly sixteen years, she gave us a kind of love that asked for nothing in return and offered everything in its place.

Dixie came to us as a tiny rescue pup, just two months old, a birthday surprise for our then–eleven-year-old son. From that day forward, the two of them grew up side by side. What began as a boy and his dog became a story of pure devotion, years filled with muddy paws, car rides, backyard adventures, and the comfort of knowing they belonged to each other.

As Dixie grew, so did her gentle spirit. She loved sitting outside in the swing, watching the world go by with the same calm patience she carried through life. A simple car ride could make her whole day, ears perked and eyes bright as the wind brushed her face. She had a way of finding joy in every small moment and teaching us to do the same.

Through the years, Dixie was there for every chapter: childhood laughter, teenage milestones, and the quiet settling of adulthood. When our son turned 26, it was time for her to cross the rainbow bridge, closing a circle of love that had spanned nearly half his life. This date-April 23, 2024, will be forever etched in my memories.

Now, her favorite spot on the porch sits still, but her spirit lingers in every gentle breeze and every warm memory. The swing may sway empty, yet somehow, it feels as though she’s still there: watching, waiting, loving.

Sixteen years of loyalty and love is a rare and precious gift. Dixie reminded us daily that the truest love needs no words, only presence. Though she’s gone, her paw prints remain, pressed deeply into the heart of our family.

Last year, I designed and created a small memorial flower garden to honor her. This flower garden sits very close to the creek area, and not far from our front porch. Every time I walk through our yard, I can still see her running around the yard.

“If the kindest souls were rewarded with the longest lives, dogs would outlive us all.”

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Sometimes, without warning, a melody drifts through my mind; a tune from my younger days. It may rise while I’m washing dishes, driving down a familiar road, or sitting quietly with my thoughts. No radio playing. No playlist cued. Just a song, resurfacing as if it has something to say.

Music has a way of storing memory. A single lyric can transport us back decades; to a bedroom with posters on the wall, to a slow dance under dim lights, to long car rides with the windows down and the future wide open. The songs of our youth are more than background noise; they are bookmarks in the story of who we were.

Recently, a friend shared a video of one of our favorite bands from the mid-70s. Watching it play flooded me with memories I didn’t even realize were still tucked away. The clothes; (Can you remember plaid?) They were from another country, too. The harmonies. The sound that once felt so current and now feels timeless. I found myself wondering, “Where did the time go?”

Two members of that music group are no longer gracing this earth. Their voices have gone quiet, their stages dimmed. And yet, not really. Because the legacy they left behind continues to echo. The songs still play. The lyrics still speak. The emotions they stirred decades ago still rise just as strong.

Music outlives the moment.

What once felt like the soundtrack to youth has become a bridge between who we were and who we are now. The melodies carry pieces of our innocence, our first loves, our early dreams. And when they resurface, they gently remind us that while time moves forward, meaning remains.

Those songs in my head are more than nostalgia. They are markers of growth. They remind me that seasons change, people leave this world, and years pass more quickly than we expect; but what was beautiful, what was true, what was deeply felt, that endures.

Maybe that’s the gift of music. It allows something of us, and of those we’ve lost, to linger.

The voices may fade, but the songs and the memories they carry play on.

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There are angels all around us, even when we don’t recognize them at first. A few days ago, the world changed for my husband and I in the most sudden and terrifying way: a heart attack, right from our home. We live barely a mile from the local hospital, but in moments like that, distance feels irrelevant. Time stretches. Fear takes over. Prayer becomes instinct.

From the moment we walked through the hospital doors, I witnessed something sacred. Compassion in motion. Calm in crisis. Kindness without hesitation. Dedication that doesn’t clock out. Professionalism wrapped in humanity. I once worked in a hospital many years ago, but seeing it now, from the other side, revealed a different spectrum entirely. Not just medicine, but ministry. Not just skill, but calling.

The same day, another hospital. Surgery was three days later. Another group of hands and hearts entrusted with the life of the man I love. And somehow, through exhaustion, fear, and uncertainty, gratitude kept rising to the surface, because everywhere we turned, there were people showing up with light.

Then came the snow:  a full foot of it,  blanketing our little corner of the world and turning ordinary roads into danger. I should not have been able to get to the hospital. But once again, an angel appeared,  a stranger who came out of nowhere, offered help without hesitation, and just happened to live only a few blocks from our home. A neighbor I hadn’t known. A blessing I didn’t expect. A reminder I’ll never forget. Now, a treasured friend.

Because of that kindness, I was able to be with my husband as he went into bypass surgery this past Monday. And I know, without a doubt, it wasn’t coincidence. It was orchestration. Grace arranged. Heaven-sent help at the exact moment it was needed.

We hear so much about the bad, the broken, the ugly of this world. It’s easy to believe that darkness is winning. But sometimes, it takes a shattered moment to spin your perspective completely around, to remind you that goodness still moves quietly, faithfully, powerfully among us.

Angels don’t always have wings.
Sometimes they wear scrubs.
Sometimes they drive in snowstorms.
Sometimes they knock on your door.
Sometimes they simply say, “I’ve got you.”

And sometimes, they remind you that even in fear, even in uncertainty, even in pain, hope is still very much alive.

“Sometimes God doesn’t calm the storms…sometimes He sends angels to walk us through it.”

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Here in the South, winter is less a season and more a rumor. It’s something we hear about from relatives up North, right before they tell us to put on a sweater and stop whining. So when the arctic air blast arrived last Sunday, uninvited, and clearly lost, we reacted the only way we know how: with confusion, mild panic, and bread-and-milk hoarding that would suggest we were preparing for a decade-long siege.

It’s important to remember that our last real snow or extreme cold was 3 years ago. Three years is long enough for Southerners to completely forget how winter works. Pipes? We assumed they’d learned their lesson. Ice? That was something you put in sweet tea, not something that attacked your front steps and driveway. The heavy coats had been lovingly stored away with the Christmas decorations earlier this month. 

When the temperatures dropped into numbers we only recognize from refrigerator settings, the South shut down with impressive efficiency. Schools closed before any precipitation fell, because experience has taught us that it’s not the snow, ice, and freezing rain that’s dangerous, it’s our response to it. The roads became an obstacle course of good intentions and bad decisions, as drivers crept along at 8 miles an hour, gripping steering wheels like they were holding on during takeoff.

Meanwhile, every Southerner performed the same ritual: standing on the porch in pajamas, staring at the yard, and saying, “Well, I’ll be.” This is followed by a text to someone who lives at least two states away, complete with photographic proof that yes, it really is cold here, and no, we are not emotionally prepared.

Inside the house, we layered up in the way only the South can manage, fleece over flannel, socks over socks, and a quilt passed down through generations that has survived harder winters and worse hairstyles. We hovered under blankets like moths with good manners and checked the weather app every ten minutes, hoping the forecast might change its mind.

The sun came out, the temperatures went up, and we returned to our natural state of denial. Coats went back into hiding, milk expired in the fridge, and we all agreed this had been a “once-in-a-lifetime” event, until the next 3 years pass and winter decides to remind us, once again, that the South may not do cold very often, but when it does, it does it with flair and a fully stocked bread aisle. 

Alas, we might be seeing another blast this weekend (all snow they’re saying). Now we wait.

“In the  South, we don’t fear winter, we just expect it to mind its manners and know when it’s time to leave.”

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